Why Would A Soul Choose To Stay In A Toxic Relationship

Every soul has five core purposes in life: emotional, intellectual, financial, spiritual, and adversity. We are wired in a way that makes us seek relationships which fulfill one or more of these needs.Therefore, in many cases, even if just one of these purposes is being fulfilled in a toxic relationship, the soul may choose to stay. The moment we stop receiving any of these needs or once they are fulfilled—the soul begins to seek separation. However, the complete fulfillment of all five purposes rarely occurs within a single lifetime and it's uncommon for even one karmic purpose to be fully realized in such a short span. Instead, the soul often becomes entangled in additional layers of negative karma, leading to multiple toxic lifetimes and the creation of numerous karmic cycles as a result of the soul's actions.

During one of my sessions, I met Piyush, who was a sales manager at a small partnership firm, father to an 8-year-old daughter and carried an innocent, charming smile despite living in a toxic marriage for over 10 years. While his relationships with his family, colleagues and others were generally positive, unlike his marital life that stood in stark contrast. He now seeks for answers after enduring the pain for the past 10 years. During a regression session, his consciousness took him back to the year 1916 to a life where he was a young army man, risking everything to protect civilians. Moments later, his awareness shifted to another scene from the same year. He was sitting with a young woman, sharing stories of his life, how he had fought for his country, saved lives and found joy in even the smallest moments of bringing happiness to others. 

He narrated the entire scenario as if he were living it in that very moment. There was a calm, satisfying smile on his face as he spoke in trance. I guided him to move forward toward the most significant events of that lifetime. But his soul resisted. Instead, he remained in the memory of the love from his past life, speaking of her with such tenderness. At that moment, I realized that his soul was holding on to that memory for a reason. There was something important hidden within it, something unresolved. He was stuck there, and his consciousness was trying to reveal what had remained buried in pain and longing.I gently attempted once again to guide him forward, but the resistance remained. Then, he moved into a deeper layer of consciousness. He saw a man from the opposing army, a figure holding a rifle. The soldier shot the girl he loved. She died instantly, right before his eyes leaving him in shock, helplessness, and overwhelming guilt. It was a wound that had not healed across lifetimes.

He then came to a realization that the girl he had loved so deeply in his past life was now his daughter in this life. And the soldier who had taken her away was, in this lifetime, his wife. As his consciousness unraveled this truth, it left me with a question- How do you begin to heal a soul when the karmic roles in the current life are so deeply entangled but the soul combination no longer mirrors the dynamics of the past?

The pain, the love and the unresolved trauma were all still alive within him but now tangled in a completely different relational context.To help him find clarity and healing, I gently guided him further into his subconscious. I asked his soul to take us to the very beginning of the soul triangle, the point in time where the karmic bond between him, the girl (now his daughter) and the soldier (now his wife) first began.

In the next scene, he found himself in another lifetime, this time as a middle-aged man, tightly holding onto his daughter’s hand. He was determined not to let her marry the man she loved. Her mother stood beside them silently, not opposing his decision. In that life, he was a highly respected and influential figure in his country, and he used his power to separate the young couple. He went so far as to relocate the boy and his entire family to another country. The pain of that separation ran deeply in the hearts of the two young lovers, with the feeling of avenging their love someday. At that very moment, the puzzle began to make sense. The authoritative father in that lifetime was Piyush. The daughter was his current daughter. And the boy she was separated from, the one she loved, was Piyush’s wife.

From here all the soul consciousness moved to the astral plane where they experienced love. But we could not ignore the sin which happened,the sin of playing with another’s life and punishing others.

Parents have all the rights to make necessary decisions for their child, but it should not be ignored that the soul’s karmic board is always active and can be re-designed in one’s lifetime. Every soul has a purpose, so one needs to be careful before committing any sin. Consequences of a sin will never leave you until the circle of karma is complete. Karmic relation returns as an opportunity of learning for the soul’s consciousness. Once the learning is completed, the cycle of karma ends, provided it does not give birth to another complicated karma cycle. Here, the daughter was reborn after a few lifetimes to provide an opportunity to release the old karma and finish it all forever.

The man had to spend his life away from his own country and love like a beggar who died starving on the road without any fault (in 1st life).In the current lifetime, the same man who killed the girl in the second lifetime had returned in Piyush’s life as his wife who now lived together and shared equal responsibilities of each other. The girl they had loved in separate lifetimes was now their daughter. 

This lifetime is an opportunity for all three of them to work on themselves and complete the old pattern. Piyush would need to give love and care to his wife to change the frequency between them and would also need to take the right decisions for his daughter in this lifetime from all perspectives.

In the Akashic library when we moved forward towards the book of life, Piyush took a book of his all-past lives which was heavy, colored green and written in Hebrew. Surprisingly, though he couldn’t read or speak Hebrew, in his conscious state, he was able to read the book of his life.After releasing all the negative lifetimes from the book, he wanted to call upon all the soul consciousness near the sacred fire to form a new divine-matrix where he designed a new constellation and placed his daughter -Almaira on the left and wife- Saira on the right, with the intention of healing their toxic relationships and to bring a perfect balance among this trinity of the souls.

By understanding the events of our past lives and making the right decisions in our current one, we can bring the karmic cycles to a full circle and be free of the burden of our actions that we have been carrying from numerous lifetimes.

It is not easy being a guru and a parent to your kid at the same time. Nor is it easy on your kid to have their guru and parent be the same person. To your child, you are a parent first- even though it is said that our first school is our home and our first teachersare our parents. Having to perform both the roles simultaneously is a great responsibility, where one has to be the true guide for their children. It requires patience, courage, discipline and the ability to make the right choices/decisions in life.

Trisha, who grew up in an abusive environment and encountered similar circumstances at her in-law’s place, decided to be a healer first, then the mother to her child. She suffered miscarriages, abortions failed IVF treatments over time. This led her to decide to learn and educate herself about the true lessons life was perhaps trying to teach her by placing her in such difficult circumstances since childhood, while she chose to remain ignorant of it all. A past life session was booked in April 2017 but the karmic contract of the soul played its divine role and the session was delayed as she conceived at that time. However, due to a medical condition, she had to abort that child in her first trimester. Soon after, her entangled emotions drew her to me for a session without any further delay. As the session began, her consciousness could not move beyond her womb and she started crying without uttering a single word. That was when I realized her consciousness wanted to connect with the recently aborted soul, likely the third soul that had tried to come to her.

As we moved further, Trisha experienced herself as a teacher in a school who was disciplined, punctual and strict and always wanted things to be perfect and accurate. But not everyone appreciates discipline or punctuality. In a lifetime from 1864, one of her students, who was also her daughter, Leila was rebellious and never liked Trisha as a strict teacher, which began to affect their parent-child relationship. Leila was a young teenage girl who craved freedom without boundaries. Trisha's disciplined nature and strict instructions at school were a major cause of tension between them, as Leila wanted to dominate the class and the school by taking advantage of her mother's position. She believed her mother's role made her superior to the other students and, as a result, became increasingly rebellious toward her. The question why arose, prompting us to move forward through four to five lifetimes. As Trisha began seeing several scenes, some depicted heated conversations between a father and daughter, another showed an unhealthy relationship between a guru and a shishya. Finally, a scene came where Trisha saw herself as a monk with a few disciples, one of whom was Leila. Leila, who was an adamant but slow learner has chosen Trisha as her guru but was unable to complete her lessons as Trisha was lazy and somewhat careless. Trisha often saw herself sitting under a tree or by the water, wasting a lot of time.

Leila realized her mistake and moved on in life, but made a karmic vow of teaching Trisha a lesson to understand discipline. In the next life, when Trisha chose to be both a mother and a guru, her relationship with Leila became a hurdle. At the soul level, their learning is aligned. They are meant to teach each other. But instead of learning, they kept creating more karma by fueling each other's patterns. So, they chose to move on separately. Leila got married to another soul thatentered her life at a young age and moved to a new city. Trisha stayed behind, holding on to her disciplined and strict nature.With this unfinished karma, it was important to find out their soul connection. In the spiritual realm, Trisha found that Leila was her Shadow Soul (parts of ourselves that we subconsciously repress or dissociate from due to fear or pain, or both).From various lifetimes, Trisha had been running from her own weaknesses which had become a hurdle in her spiritual journey. In the lifetime where she saw herself as a monk, she needed a separate body, a human in front of her to show her own weakness from a raw perspective. So, she chose to be born with her own shadow self on this planet.In this lifetime, the soul she had to abort was Leila. During the in-womb conversation, it was revealed that the soul that was aborted was Leila's, as Trisha was not yet ready to face or work through her weaknesses. Hence, this lifetime would also go in vain.

Before our birth, we sit with our guardian angel and other souls. We make contracts, define our roles, areas of work and life purpose. Trisha’s karma and choices made through free will were mostly wrong and against the purpose she was born with.In this lifetime, Trisha had to work on her weaknesses and darker side, a life purpose where she would work with beings of higher dimensions and higher energies.As she came out of a four-hour-long session, she simply had tears in her eyes along with satisfaction, forgiveness and peace. We all need to understand that every relationship is serving us. The Divine plan works whether we know it or not. It should not matter to our soul. If we can rise above ego and emotional needs, we can live in higher vibrations.

Everyone gets a chance at redemption. It is up to us how we choose to use it. Are we ready to acknowledge the consequences our actions have had on others’ lives and make amends or have we still not understood what life has been trying to teach us through certain situations. It is our free will that allows us to choose but it is our intellect that helps us make the right choice.